The Greeks used different adjectives to describe love. Each adjective (see tittle) reflected to magnitude of love with Agape meaning deep love and 'Phileo' describing a like. Such is the profound nature of this highly elusive and unpredicatble emotion
Case in point: There was a couple. They had been friends for the longest time and decided to take it to another level. You can probably imagine that the result was not eventful (or else I wont be blogging this right?) Well the break up came swift and fast and ended in weeks. Now the girl does not like the guy and feels jaded and used like those toys which you lose interest in after a few weeks. Needless to say she feels that the friendship of 2 years have festered along with the relationship. She wants nothing to do with him anymore and feels she has lost more than him.
Alright with the basis now set, let me provide you my opinion as I reflect on this.
To the couple: I am sorry that this had to happen. One would have thought that the 2 years of friendship would have served as a foundation rather than a destabilizing factor. Well what ever it is, I sure do hope that the 2 years are not 'wasted' and that I am sure a friendship is still possible. After all both of you seem to hold the saying that ' its history'. Thus if so, I don't see why you cannot start anew. I feel that even though you say it, both of you seem to show that you cannot forget what happened. I am glad that you can't, it shows you are human. To deviate, we are all individuals that are made up memories. Our character is sculpted by that. To simply forget the past is as good as forgetting yr memories- both good and bad. In doing so aren't you simply losing part of yourself? So now the 2 of you are at odds with each other, I am sure you can sit down and settle this. Don't lose the friendship! Its not worth it.
To the guy: this relationships are special. So don't use the 'thats life' excuse. We need to grasp these experiences and somehow draw a lesson from them. For example, in this case, you should try to see what went wrong. Was your mind in the right place but your heart in someone else's'? Since you asked her, I would seemingly think you are more to blame as you initiated it but you could not sustain it. But thats just me. Yea, I hope you know what you are doing.
To the girl: I just talked to you so I got lots to say. Ok first, theres no such thing as in "I think I suffered more than him" Love is not a study of economics. There is no marginal costs between 2 parties. Both of you suffered so don't feel that you got the shorter end of the stick. Cause in fact both of you drew short sticks.
People have different ways of dealing with problems. He seems to shun it and blame it life, you on the other hand blame him! Ok you may be right to do that but can you really put complete blame on him? It takes 2 hands to clap remember. Well, like I told you earlier, learn from this relationship but certainly don't lose the friendship.
Alright, thats all I have to say even though this situation is completely distinct, problems like this are extremely common yet the solution generic.
TIME WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS? I hope in your case its true.
Case in point: There was a couple. They had been friends for the longest time and decided to take it to another level. You can probably imagine that the result was not eventful (or else I wont be blogging this right?) Well the break up came swift and fast and ended in weeks. Now the girl does not like the guy and feels jaded and used like those toys which you lose interest in after a few weeks. Needless to say she feels that the friendship of 2 years have festered along with the relationship. She wants nothing to do with him anymore and feels she has lost more than him.
Alright with the basis now set, let me provide you my opinion as I reflect on this.
To the couple: I am sorry that this had to happen. One would have thought that the 2 years of friendship would have served as a foundation rather than a destabilizing factor. Well what ever it is, I sure do hope that the 2 years are not 'wasted' and that I am sure a friendship is still possible. After all both of you seem to hold the saying that ' its history'. Thus if so, I don't see why you cannot start anew. I feel that even though you say it, both of you seem to show that you cannot forget what happened. I am glad that you can't, it shows you are human. To deviate, we are all individuals that are made up memories. Our character is sculpted by that. To simply forget the past is as good as forgetting yr memories- both good and bad. In doing so aren't you simply losing part of yourself? So now the 2 of you are at odds with each other, I am sure you can sit down and settle this. Don't lose the friendship! Its not worth it.
To the guy: this relationships are special. So don't use the 'thats life' excuse. We need to grasp these experiences and somehow draw a lesson from them. For example, in this case, you should try to see what went wrong. Was your mind in the right place but your heart in someone else's'? Since you asked her, I would seemingly think you are more to blame as you initiated it but you could not sustain it. But thats just me. Yea, I hope you know what you are doing.
To the girl: I just talked to you so I got lots to say. Ok first, theres no such thing as in "I think I suffered more than him" Love is not a study of economics. There is no marginal costs between 2 parties. Both of you suffered so don't feel that you got the shorter end of the stick. Cause in fact both of you drew short sticks.
People have different ways of dealing with problems. He seems to shun it and blame it life, you on the other hand blame him! Ok you may be right to do that but can you really put complete blame on him? It takes 2 hands to clap remember. Well, like I told you earlier, learn from this relationship but certainly don't lose the friendship.
Alright, thats all I have to say even though this situation is completely distinct, problems like this are extremely common yet the solution generic.
TIME WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS? I hope in your case its true.
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